Through following Joshua Harris as he engages his critics, his fans, and various Christian leaders in a new conversation, we get to see the complexities surrounding sexuality, singleness, relationships, and faith finally given expression and attention. In the message, Harris also indicated that it was "OK" for single men and women to go out for coffee by themselves, apparently correcting misconceptions some singles had in his church. What Really Matters in Relationships". I wanted to make a documentary so a greater spectrum of Christian voices could be heard on this important topic that affects all of us. Overview[ edit ] Harris popularized the concept of " courting " as an alternative to regular secular dating, and in doing so has caused discussion regarding the appropriateness of his solutions to regular dating as well as the foundations on which he bases his reasoning. In this message Harris acknowledged problems with how the singles related in his church.